Celebrating Four Years of ‘For Men to Talk’: Empowering Men Through Peer Support

Today, 24 December 2023, marks a significant milestone for ‘For Men To Talk’ as it celebrates its fourth anniversary, it’s time to celebrate the incredible journey of this men’s peer support group. Born out of a dire need for safe spaces where men could openly discuss their mental health challenges, this peer support group has grown into a vital resource, providing solace and understanding to those grappling with anxiety, depression, grief, and more.

In this blog post, we will reflect on the significance of this milestone and highlight the positive impact ‘For Men to Talk’ has had on the lives of its members.

Creating a Safe Space:

At its core, ‘For Men to Talk’ was established to address the unique challenges men face in seeking emotional support. Breaking the stereotypes that men should remain stoic and silent about their struggles, the group fosters an environment of trust and understanding. Members can openly discuss their fears, doubts, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or ridicule. By dismantling the societal barriers that often prevent men from seeking help, ‘For Men to Talk’ has become a refuge where they can find solace and strength.

Peer Support and Empowerment:

‘For Men to Talk’ recognises the power of peer support in promoting emotional well-being. The group encourages active participation and engages in thoughtful discussions, allowing men to connect with others who have faced similar challenges. By sharing their stories, triumphs, and setbacks, members provide valuable insights, empathy, and encouragement to their peers. This camaraderie creates a strong support network that empowers men to confront their issues head-on and take charge of their emotional well-being.

Addressing Mental Health Stigma:

One of the remarkable achievements of ‘For Men to Talk’ lies in its efforts to combat the stigma surrounding men’s mental health. Traditionally, men have been discouraged from seeking help due to the prevailing notion that it is a sign of weakness. By openly discussing mental health challenges, ‘For Men to Talk’ challenges these harmful beliefs and encourages men to prioritise their well-being. This group’s unwavering commitment to destigmatising mental health issues has paved the way for many men to seek professional help and support, thereby improving their overall quality of life.

Personal Growth and Transformation:

Over the past four years, ‘For Men to Talk’ has witnessed numerous stories of personal growth and transformation. Through the power of shared experiences and support, members have gained a deeper understanding of themselves and learned valuable coping mechanisms. The group’s activities, such as workshops, guest speakers, and guided discussions, have equipped participants with tools to navigate life’s challenges. ‘For Men to Talk’ has empowered its members to embrace vulnerability, practice self-care, and build healthier relationships with others.

Fuelled by the desire to create a safe space for men to connect and openly discuss their feelings, founder Luke Newman took a bold step on Christmas Eve in 2019 by launching the ‘For Men To Talk’ Facebook page. The response was immediate and overwhelming. The inaugural group meeting, held on 13 February 2020, at Jones’ Café in Biggleswade, witnessed the gathering of nineteen individuals eager to share their stories and lend a supportive ear.

Now four years later, ’For Men To Talk’ is more than just a support group; it’s a lifeline for men seeking connection in a society that often expects them to bear their burdens silently. The success of this initiative lies in its simplicity—no rules, no regulations. Men are free to express as much or as little as they want, fostering an environment of trust and camaraderie.

In 2023, the group expanded its reach through a variety of meeting formats:

• Virtual Group Meetings: Held every Wednesday at 6 pm, these online sessions break down geographical barriers, providing a platform for men to connect from the comfort of their homes.
• Physical Group Meetings: Two sessions per month at The Crown Hotel (Wetherspoon) in Biggleswade, Bedfordshire, and one session per month at St Neots Golf Club in Cambridgeshire. Additional physical meetings were introduced at various locations, including the Rising Sun in Potton, the Roundabout Club in Sandy, the Gamlingay Eco Hub in Gamlingay, the Shine Education Centre in Marple, Stockport and The Wheatsheaf, Higher Hillgate in Stockport.
• ‘For Men To Talk… and Walk’: Responding to the growing interest in combining mental health discussions with physical activity, the group initiated monthly walks in Biggleswade and Bedford, promoting overall well-being.
• ‘For Men To Talk… and Fish’: Acknowledging the therapeutic benefits of nature, a monthly fishing event was introduced in Lower Caldecote, providing a unique and serene setting for conversations.

To address specific needs, ‘For Men To Talk’ launched a specialised offshoot, ‘For Men To Talk about Autism.’ Tailored for autistic men, those with autistic family members, or those awaiting an autism diagnosis, these sessions occur twice a month, fostering inclusivity and understanding.

“I’m not sure where the first four years have gone”, said ‘For Men To Talk’ founder Luke Newman. “My original commitment to provide a safe and comfortable environment for men to share their struggles persists still remains and I look forward to continuing this vital journey to help more heal and connection.”

As ‘For Men To Talk’ enters 2024, the vision is to make this invaluable support network even more widespread. The call for volunteer facilitators signals a commitment to reaching every corner, ensuring that men everywhere have access to a ‘For Men To Talk’ group. The plan is to extend this lifeline to villages, towns, and cities, breaking down barriers and building bridges of empathy and support.

The journey of ‘For Men To Talk’ is a testament to the power of human connection. In a world that can often feel isolating, this initiative stands as a beacon, reminding us all that vulnerability is not weakness but a strength that binds us together. As we celebrate these four years, let us also look forward to a future where ‘For Men To Talk’ becomes a household name, synonymous with hope and healing for men from all walks of life.