The Hidden Struggles: When a male family member depends on alcohol

Alcohol addiction can quietly tear a family apart. When a male family member becomes dependent on alcohol, it affects not just his health but the people around him. It can create stress, fear, and emotional pain for loved ones who feel powerless to help.

The Impact on Himself

Alcohol addiction takes a serious toll on physical and mental health. It increases the risk of liver disease, heart problems, and depression. It also affects decision-making, leading to reckless behaviour that can cause harm to himself and others.

Many men turn to alcohol as a way to cope with stress, grief, or mental health struggles. However, instead of solving problems, alcohol often makes them worse. Over time, addiction can take away motivation, damage relationships, and make a person feel isolated.

The Impact on the Family

Alcohol dependence does not just harm the person drinking—it affects the whole family. It can create emotional distance, cause financial problems, and even lead to domestic conflicts.

Loved ones may feel helpless, watching someone they care about change before their eyes. They may try to hide the problem from others, feeling ashamed or embarrassed. Children in the household may grow up in an unstable environment, feeling confused and scared.

“Hiding Bottles,” a song by British band Bear’s Den, captures these struggles. The song is about living with an alcoholic relative and the pain of being unable to reach them. The music video, featuring my twin sons, brings this reality to life, showing how addiction can break family bonds. 

Breaking the Cycle

Recognising the problem is the first step. Talking about addiction without judgment can help men seek support. Many are afraid to ask for help because they feel weak or ashamed. But seeking support is a sign of strength, not failure.

Family members should also get support for themselves. Groups like Al-Anon help people cope with a loved one’s addiction. Talking to others in similar situations can ease feelings of isolation.

Professional help, such as therapy and rehabilitation programs, can offer structured support. These services help men understand why they drink and teach them healthier ways to cope.

Hope and Healing

Recovery is possible, but it takes time and effort. Families can play a key role by offering support while setting healthy boundaries. Encouraging a loved one to seek help, while taking care of their own well-being, is important.

At ‘For Men To Talk,’ we see how open conversations can change lives. Many men turn to alcohol when they feel they have no one to talk to. But when they find a safe space to share, they realise they are not alone.

As I always say, “Talking about your struggles is not a sign of weakness. It’s the first step towards strength.”

If you or someone you love is struggling with alcohol addiction, know that help is available. You don’t have to face it alone.