Why Language Matters: Rethinking the Language of Suicide

The words we use matter more than we often realise. They shape how we think, how we feel, and how safe we feel speaking openly. This is especially true when we talk about suicide. For many people, language can either open a door to support or quietly close it.

One phrase that is still commonly used is “committed suicide.” While many people do not intend harm by using it, the phrase carries a long and painful history. To “commit” something is usually linked to a crime or wrongdoing. This wording comes from a time when suicide was illegal in the UK. Before 1961, a person who attempted suicide and survived could be punished and even imprisoned.

Although suicide was decriminalised under the Suicide Act 1961, the language has not fully moved on. When we say someone “committed” or “tried to commit” suicide, it can sound like an accusation. It can suggest blame, fault, or shame. For someone already struggling with thoughts of suicide, this can make things even harder.

Language that carries judgement can increase stigma. Stigma creates silence. Silence stops people from reaching out. If someone feels they will be judged, blamed, or misunderstood, they may keep their thoughts to themselves. This can prevent them from asking for help at the moment they need it most.

At ‘For Men To Talk’, we see how powerful open and non-judgemental language can be. Many men already find it difficult to talk about their mental health. Using harsh or outdated language around suicide can add another barrier. Creating safe spaces starts with using safe words.

Luke Newman, CEO and founder of ‘For Men To Talk’, explains why this matters so deeply: “When we change the language we use around suicide, we reduce shame and make it easier for people to speak up. Words can either push someone further into isolation or help them feel understood and supported.”

Stigmatising language does not only affect individuals who are struggling. It also affects families, friends, and loved ones who have lost someone to suicide. Hearing language that implies blame can add to their pain. It can make grief more complicated and prevent open conversations about loss, love, and remembrance.

Using alternatives such as “died by suicide” or “took their own life” removes the sense of criminality. These phrases are more neutral and compassionate. They focus on the reality of the loss, not judgement of the person.

Rethinking our language is not about being overly careful or policing speech. It is about kindness, understanding, and progress. It is about recognising that suicide is a complex mental health issue, not a crime or moral failure.

By choosing our words more thoughtfully, we help create a culture where people feel safer to talk. A culture where asking for help is seen as a strength. A culture where grief is met with compassion, not silence.

Changing language will not solve everything, but it is a meaningful step. And sometimes, small changes can make a life-saving difference.